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“Create Your Fate” — an exclusive 2-day public speaking workshop in West Hollywood, CA

“Create Your Fate”

A 2-day Exclusive Program for 10 Select Women.

 

Learn to speak with courage, confidence, and connection, with vulnerability and transparency,

without hiding, pretense, or defense. Learn to tell the truth and to show who you are, honestly and directly.

For full details and to register for this this exclusive program, sponsored and hosted by Catherine Gray, click here.

Your 360Karma special introductory price $595 (includes two day seminar, workbook, lunch, and video feedback)!

Robert Rabbin has developed an international reputation as a radically brilliant speaker and public speaking guru, as well as a distinguished self-awareness facilitator, leadership adviser, and personal mentor. Robert is the creator and director of Speaking Truthfully, through which he offers masterclasses and private mentoring in authentic self-expression and public speaking. He has published eight books and more than 200 articles on authentic living and public speaking, leadership, self-inquiry, and meditation.

Catherine Gray is a pioneering documentary film producer, speaker, and author who has produced, directed and co-produced many award-winning documentaries. She creates projects that evoke change, empowering people to use their gifts to make a difference in the world. Last year Gray launched a talk show, web series, online community, conference and companion book, “LIVE LOVE THRIVE: Inspiring Women to Unleash Their Life’s Purpose”.

I Love Language, But . . .

I love language: as my sister Gina says to me, “you are woefully unable to keep your mouth shut.” OK, she’s right. For years, I used “Have Mouth, Will Travel” as my professional tag line, though now I tend to favor the new — and thoroughly modest — “a radically brilliant speaker and coach.”

Yes, I love language. I love the feel of it in my brain, the sound of it as it takes birth in the world. I love the energy of it. I love the drumbeat cadence of rhythmic, poetic speaking. I love how we can use language to understand each other, to form connections with each other, to become intimate with each other. I love the way language can enchant people and take them on glorious journeys of possibilities, of epiphanies and realizations about the mystery of life. I love the way language can be used to illuminate dark places and things, the way it can be used to encourage, to arouse, to awaken — yes, language is good!

These are just a few of the reasons I love language. But . . . there is something I love more than language, something vital to Speaking Truthfully. In fact, the Speaking Truthfully philosophy, principles, and practices were discovered in this thing that I love more than language.

I love silence more. I’ve known this for decades. And, intensifying that love affair with silence, I experienced what I call “the collapse of language” at some point during the five-year healing cocoon I lived in, courtesy of a number of cells-gone-wild (aka “lung cancer”). I lived for too many months to count without language. The whole structure of it, the very meaning of language itself, just collapsed within me. I was aware only of silence. I’ve written about this in a few Blog posts, most notably when speaking (irony abounds) about my “pony rides to oblivion.”

I didn’t miss language when it left me because I fell more deeply in love with the silence I had flirted with for decades — through such activities as meditation, self-inquiry contemplation, and mindfully paying attention to the miracle of breath. I didn’t miss language because within this primal silence — which appeared on its own, without any intention or effort on my part — I experienced a euphoria that I had never experienced in language. I was brought into rhythmic coexistence with the life-force, the very breath, that enlivens and sustains all living things. I experienced a level of clarity, of non-dogmatic “truth,” that language can only approximate. I experienced what mysticism calls unity-with-all-that-is. I experienced the peace and beauty and simplicity of utter silence, of unending stillness.

Bankruptcy, Past Lives, and the Buried Origins of Fear of Speaking

I’m not going to analyze, interpret, or frame the events I recount in this article. I’m just going to stick to the facts of my experience, as clearly and cleanly as I can remember them. I have not written or spoken of this before.

It’s 1996. I am living in a tiny cottage on a small farm in Somis, an unincorporated community in Ventura County, CA. My brother, an attorney, lived nearby in Ventura.

I had filed for personal bankruptcy under Chapter 7. The “inquisition” day had arrived. I went with my attorney to the courthouse, where I sat with several dozen other petitioners and their attorneys. At the front of the large room was a dais, on which were seated seven trustees, whose roles were to question each petitioner to ascertain the validity of their various claims and statements.

My turn came. The questioning began. I affirmed the validity of all my written statements. OK. Until …

In 1995, I had published my first book, The Sacred Hub, with Crossing Press. The book detailed my spiritual experiences and understanding to date. In a publishing upheaval, Crossing Press remaindered the inventory of my book, which I bought for very little. (Ironically, this book is being reissued this month by Wetware Media, whose publisher calls the book “a spiritual classic.”) I had about 2,000 books on hand. I had declared this as an asset, though of little actual cash value. One trustee held up a copy of the book and, so it seemed to me, boomed threateningly: “What is this?”

Listen Deeply

[This is an excerpt from The 5 Principles of Authentic Living. Here I talk about the third principle, Listen Deeply.]

 

“People say that what we’re all seeking is a meaning for life. I think that what we’re really seeking is an experience of being alive, so that our life experiences on the purely physical plane will have resonance within our innermost being and reality, so that we can actually feel the rapture of being alive.” — Joseph Campbell, American mythologist and writer, 1904-1987

Listen Deeply

Be Present. Pay Attention. And as we do, we begin, quite naturally and effortlessly, to Listen Deeply. To Listen Deeply is to discover that the source of perennial wisdom is within our own being. To Listen Deeply is to realize that you have as much access to self-knowledge and enlightenment as anyone ever has, and all you have to do is Listen Deeply.

Who am I? What do I want? What should I do? Where do I belong? What is my truth, what do I value, what is important to me? The answers to these questions bring us to the precipice of an authentic life. And then, in trusting that we can know the answers from within our own self, we jump from the precipice into the abyss of authenticity. But not the kind of trust that promises everything will be easy, or work out, or be safe. Trust as in self-belief, as in self-confidence, as in self-authority. It is, after all, your life. Why wouldn’t you know the answers to your own questions about your own self and life. In fact, no one else can know; they can only project their own self-knowing onto you.

If we learn to Listen Deeply, we will always know the answers. They will be our answers. They will be right and true for us. Listening Deeply feeds us with a constant stream of inspiration, intuition, and insight which we can use to light our way and act impeccably. I’ve used this principle to “listen” my way from one place to the next, from one project to the next, from one decision to the next. When I am asked questions by clients and students, I Listen Deeply. And then I share what I hear. I Listen Deeply and I hear things as practical as slow down to 65 and you won’t get a speeding ticket and as spiritually illuminating as it’s time to withdraw from all activities for one month, you will be shown something you need to know.

Listening Deeply means to Pay Attention with great skill and subtlety to what is heard from beneath the surface of the thoughtstream. Listening Deeply is not just listening with our ears. It’s being totally open and receptive to everything, everywhere — all at once. It’s listening inside yourself. It’s listening to intuition, to flashes of insight and bursts of clarity. It’s listening to what’s happening outside. It’s listening to people and hearing not just their words, but their meaning. It’s listening to what I call the “I want” — to the desires that arise from deep within us, the ones that we must hear and honor as our truth, our calling, our path, our purpose. Listening Deeply is something we all know how to do. We are born with this capacity. But we forget how to do it, and in so doing, we forget what we know, and tip towards the feeling of being lost, confused, and alienated from life itself.

“My Weekend With Robert” by Carol Daniel

Carol Daniel participated in the Speaking Truthfully masterclass, Liberate Your Cosmic Roar!, in Salinas, CA over the weekend of June 24-25, 2017, hosted by Marlie Avant. She wrote this at the request of her longtime friend, Judy Simeone, a yoga teacher in CT. Judy is hosting a masterclass in her yoga studio in September.

My Weekend With Robert

by Carol Daniel

Carol Daniel

First of all, I have to say that this workshop has been one of the most impactful that I have ever done and I’ve certainly done plenty!

I found Robert on the Internet while I was struggling with how to balance my spiritual life with the craziness that was going on in our elections. He and Tim Freke had done a video called Radical Sages. They talked about spirituality being about how we show up in the world. These were words my heart needed to hear because I was so confused by my “spiritual” friends being unwilling to try to find a place for what was going on in the world outside.

I continued to follow Robert online and became intrigued by his Speaking Truthfully program. For years I have hated my shyness and my basic survival mechanism, which is to hide. I had never considered actually trying to heal this maladaptive behavior. It just seemed like this was who I was. Listening to Robert, I began to think that it might be possible to do my life in a better way. I decided to sign up for his upcoming workshop. I wrote him saying, “I am 73 years old and I’m tired of hiding.”

Speaking Truthfully masterclass in Torrington, CT

Liberate Your Cosmic Roar!

A Two-day Exclusive Program for 8 Select People.

September 9 & 10, 2017 — Torrington, CT

Learn to speak with courage, confidence, and connection,

with vulnerability and transparency, without hiding, pretense, or defense.

Learn to tell the truth and to show who you are, honestly and directly.

Cosmic roar! It’s the sound only you can make. Everyone has one. Built into our essential being, it’s the distinctive signature of your most authentic presence, your most truthful voice, your most compelling message. Your cosmic roar is the expression of your beautiful heart melded with the artistry to speak it freely and effectively in front of anyone and everyone, everywhere, all the time. It is life pouring through you—unobstructed, freewheeling, fearless, powerful.

  • How often have you hidden yourself when you wanted to be seen, or remained seated when you wanted to stand, or stayed quiet when you wanted to speak?
  • What if you could experience and embody freedom from these and other symptoms of self-suppression and self-betrayal?
  • What if you could learn how to self-generate portable safety, such that wherever you go, you are free to truly show up and speak your truth?
  • What if you could Liberate Your Cosmic Roar, along with learning essential skills of effective speaking?

I designed Speaking Truthfully based on the belief that our self-actualization in the world, our personal and professional success, and our ability to influence, impact and serve others are all dependent on our ability to speak with authenticity, credibility, and skill. This is what Speaking Truthfully is all about.

I especially want to assist people who are ready and willing to disturb the status quo with their innate magnificence, beauty, and power.

Although you will learn to speak in public with confidence and assurance, this is much more than a public speaking course. It is a path to transformation, an opportunity to break through barriers that have inhibited you most of your life. Those who have taken the course have described it as “life changing,” because when you get into the habit of speaking truthfully, almost anything is possible.

If you are ready and sincerely want to liberate your cosmic roar, I’d love to help! Two days . . .

See you soon!

Robert Rabbin


PROGRAM DETAILS

When:  Saturday & Sunday, September 9 & 10, 2017

Time:  9:30AM – 5PM each day

Where:  Judy Simeone’s Yoga Studio

2361 Torringford West Street, Torrington CT 06790

Cost:  $425, includes workbook amd lunch (Special Introductory Offer)

More Info: Judy Simeone, producer: 860-482-8144

Questions? Email Robert: info@robertrabbin.com

Three Vidoes to Watch

1.  From Self-Realization to Self-Expression: The Story of Speaking Truthfully, 7 minutes

An account of Robert’s life odyssey from a childhood awakening to an Indian ashram to corporate America to creating the most original, powerful, and transformative style of public speaking currently available.

2.  Speaking About Speaking Truthfully, 12 minutes

A candid, spontaneous conversation about the Speaking Truthfully masterclass in Salinas, CA on June 24/25, 2017 between participants Marlie Avant and Cate Montana.

3.  Finding Your Joy with Paula Vail, 30 minutes

A May 2017 interview on the Women’s Broadcast Network, in which Robert talks about his work with women.

PAST PARTICIPANT COMMENTS

“You won’t find a better, more qualified, authentic, and effective speaking guide and mentor than Robert Rabbin. He has challenged me, inspired me, awakened me and freed me in ways I was not expecting. Nobody does REAL like Robert does, with his laser-like clarity, embodied wisdom, and wicked sense of humor. He walks his talk like no other teacher/mentor I’ve ever known.”  LISA PAGE, speaker, author, mentor

“I have studied speaking and have been doing it for years but I must say that I believe Robert to be by far the best public speaker I have ever come across! He speaks straight from the heart and seems to know just how to pass that quality on to his students. If you have any reason to speak anywhere at all, you need to attend all of Robert’s workshops. If you wish to speak more dynamically and more authentically, you must go to the master, Robert Rabbin. I cannot recommend him highly enough.”  BRONWYN BROWN, professional actress, singer, teacher

“Robert is a master at cradling you in one soft, safe hand, whilst at the same time pushing you gently in the back with the other. You may well feel challenged, but never threatened. And, at the same time, you will have more fun than you would have thought possible. It was a wonder to witness people achieve life-changing growth during only two days. Some even changed physically. In stepping into who they are they rediscovered their power source. They grew. They glowed. They laughed. They found their voice. I did too. I wouldn’t have missed it for anything.”  ALISON WILSON, speaker, consultant

“I highly recommend Robert if you want to become a great public speaker. He is a true master in his field. I had a huge fear of public speaking until he showed me how to connect with what was already inside of me and to express myself fearlessly. He taught me that public speaking is not different from having a conversation with your best friend; when that penny dropped, I allowed myself to stand on a stage openly and honestly with a strong sense of how I wanted to connect with my audience. How liberating!”  DEANNE MATHEWS, coach, speaker

ROBERT RABBIN, BIO

Robert Rabbin began his professional journey in 1985, after spending 10 years living and working with meditation master Swami Muktananda. Since then, he has developed an international reputation as a radically brilliant speaker and public speaking guru, as well as a distinguished self-awareness facilitator, leadership adviser, and personal mentor. Robert is the creator and director of Speaking Truthfully, through which he offers masterclasses and private mentoring in authentic self-expression and public speaking. He has published eight books and more than 200 articles on authentic living and public speaking, leadership, self-inquiry, and meditation. In January 2012, he was diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer and told he had a few months to live. However, in keeping with his contrarian nature, he continues to thrive past the predicted use-by date. He lives in Los Angeles.

Walking Out the Door

WALKING OUT THE DOOR.

Has someone ever come up to you, thinking they know you, and started chatting away about people and events you have no knowledge of?

You wonder who they’re speaking to. Suddenly, they wake up and realize that they don’t know you, that you only looked like someone they know or knew.

This is happening to me now. People are writing and speaking to me as if they know me. They don’t. I wonder who they think I am. I wonder who they’re speaking to. I wonder why they aren’t more present with themselves, and me.

It is quite common, isn’t it, to assume that we know people, because their name and face and voice are familiar? But we have to be careful, because something may have happened in their hypocenter, the underground focus point of an earthquake. They may have lived through an earthquake, a demolition of their previous self.

Without our noticing, their entire identity, history, and being may have shifted so suddenly and totally as to make them a new person. Not the old person with new ideas, experiences, and beliefs, but a new person, one we’ve never met. This can happen to anyone, to all of us. It’s often why we undertake personal and spiritual growth work: to become something utterly new.

Read the rest of this article on Rebelle Society.

 

The Tall Poppy Syndrome

Most of us have a governor on our capacity for full authentic self-expression. A governor is device that “automatically regulates the supply of fuel, steam, or water to a machine, ensuring uniform motion or limiting speed.” The governor we have inside us automatically regulates the supply of shakti, life force, in order to limit our ability to speak truthfully, to disturb the universe with our primal presence and cosmic roar. In Australia, this governing device is called “tall poppy syndrome.”

My first direct experience of this tall poppy notion came one morning in a workshop I was leading, shortly after I moved to Australia in 2005. I wondered aloud why a few of the participants danced so delicately around an issue they wanted to discuss. They did everything but speak plainly. I encouraged them to speak more boldly and directly. In our subsequent conversation, they said they had learned to not be bold or direct. They said that it wasn’t right to speak out too loudly. They didn’t want to stick out, or stand above others. They told me about the tall poppy syndrome, which I’ve come to understand as a kind of cultural suppression of creative self-expression.

The tall poppy syndrome is a topic that showed up in every one of my workshops in Australia, over the course of almost six years. It is a fire-walk that many have to take in order to break the hold of this socialization, their learned reticence to stand up, stick out, and speak brilliantly, powerfully, passionately, authentically!

When I asked one of my Australian friends to give me her definition of the tall poppy syndrome, she said, “Let’s not get too high and mighty, let’s not get too carried away with ourself. We don’t want anyone getting too full of their own talent or accomplishment. If they do, why we’ll just cut them down to size. We’ll have no tall poppies in our fields!”

Another said, “Australians are carrying a national consciousness of unworthiness, stemming from our roots as a convict colony. When one of us tries to move into the bigger world, to dream a bigger vision, we briefly project all of our personal unmet ambitions onto him. When it turns out he is human and experiences a moment of failure, or is in our eyes somehow not good enough or undeserving, we pull him down justifying our own choice not to have at least tried to expand our horizons. Just like the elephants tied to the chains who don’t realise they are bigger than the chains, we are re-creating our convict history via our tall poppy syndrome, believing ourselves to be prisoners simultaneously worshipping, fearing, and resenting the ones who break free.”

Introducing Robert Rabbin & Speaking Truthfully

I would like to introduce you to my brother, Robert Rabbin, who is known internationally as a radically brilliant speaker, public speaking guru, and author of eight books and more than 250 articles. He’s also known for thriving well past a 2012 diagnosis of “terminal” stage 4 lung cancer!

It’s not just as Robert’s sister that I’m writing this email, but as a woman who has played many different roles, including daughter, sister, wife, step-mother, corporate employee, business owner, energy healer, and author. I can honestly say that a lack of confidence in myself as a woman — in my authentic self and voice — and and a lack of skill in public speaking held me back for years, as it does many women. No one teaches us to speak truthfully, powerfully, authentically, freely, fearlessly. Not when we’re young, and not when we’re grown. Until now, until Robert.

Is it odd that a man has the special gift of helping women shed their outdated beliefs and fears and blocks as they learn to embody confidence and powerfully express their authentic presence? Perhaps. But Robert is an original. He is confident and bold and radical and brilliant, and he has created a style of public speaking that is an expression of those qualities. It’s called Speaking Truthfully and it’s as valuable to emerging speakers as experienced pros.

The three short videos below tell the story of Robert and Speaking Truthfully. I invite you to watch them and then contact me with any questions you might have about Speaking Truthfully masterclasses, individual and group coaching, retreats, and keynote presentations, or if you want to connect directly with Robert.

1.  From Self-Realization to Self-Expression: The Story of Speaking Truthfully, 7 minutes

An account of Robert’s life odyssey from a childhood awakening to an Indian ashram to corporate America to creating the most original, powerful, and transformative style of public speaking currently available.

2.  Speaking About Speaking Truthfully, 12 minutes

A candid, spontaneous conversation about the Speaking Truthfully masterclass in Salinas, CA on June 24/25, 2017 between participants Marlie Avant and Cate Montana.

3.  Finding Your Joy with Paula Vail, 30 minutes

A May 2017 interview on the Women’s Broadcast Network, in which Robert talks about his work with women.

I look forward to hearing from you!

Gina Rabbin

gina@ginarabbin.com

Gina Rabbin

 

 

The Drunkenness of Love

THE DRUNKENNESS OF LOVE.

I admit that I am drunk. No, not booze. Not drugs. Not sex. Not nature. Not music. Just drunk. The drunkenness of love, pure and simple.

My mind has gone where minds go when we are drunk. I don’t know who or what is writing; certainly there is no thinking. I can barely see. Thankfully, my fingers have been trained to find the right keys, on their own. Maybe my fingers are behind this. I don’t know. Someone wants to say something.

Love is never absent from our lives. We do not have to find it; we are it. The problem is not that we don’t know how to love, or whom to love and in what way. The problem is that we are afraid of love, because love consumes us. We dissolve into love like salt dissolves in water. We disappear into love. We are overcome by love.

Love does not disappoint us. We disappoint ourselves because we resist love; we are afraid of disappearing into love. And so we are confused about love. It eludes us. We can’t quite grab hold of it. We try to love. We want to. But we don’t.

We don’t mind having an experience we call love, but we don’t want to lose ourselves. We want love to be like our sterling silverware or our best shoes. We use them when we want to, on special occasions. But we don’t want the forks and knives or the shoes to take us over. We want to be the judicious owners of these things. We want them to enhance our lives on our terms.

 

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