Speaking Truthfully

The Cosmic Roar

I have one. You have one. Everyone has one. It’s built into the OS of our essential being.

What is it? It’s the sound that only you can make, because it’s the distinctive signature of your most authentic presence, your most truthful voice, your most compelling message. It is life pouring through you, unobstructed, freewheeling, fearless, powerful. It is the expression of your deep heart melded with skillful means spoken in front of anyone and everyone, all the time.

Though it is an innate capacity, it has been suppressed by many and various forces for almost all of us. We have to consciously and intentionally liberate our cosmic roar from beneath layers of suppression, doubt, and fear that plague so many of us. How do we do this?

Through Speaking Truthfully — the most potent, daring, and effective way to speak authentically and publicly that exists today.

It is axiomatic that our self-actualization in the world, as well as all manner of personal and professional success and our ability to influence, impact and serve others are all dependent our our facility to speak with authenticity, credibility, and skill; to speak with courage, confidence, and connection. To speak with vulnerability and transparency. To speak without hiding, pretense, or defense. To be willing to show up, look people directly in the eyes, and tell the truth. To show who we are, honestly and directly. This is what Speaking Truthfully is all about.

If you want to liberate your Cosmic Roar, I’d love to help you. That’s what I do, especially for women who want to free themselves from the inhibitions imposed upon them by social and cultural norms, and who are ready and willing to disturb the status quo with their innate magnificence, beauty, and power.

Speaking Truthfully with Barry Eaton & Robert Rabbin

I had the great pleasure to speak with my dear friend, and one of Australia’s brightest lights, Barry Eaton. Barry’s long and distinguished career includes having broad experience in all forms of the media and entertainment industries, as well as being a gifted astrologer, psychic, and medium. He is the author of several books, and an intrepid explorer of reality.

In our very informal conversation, we speak about Speaking Truthfully, our respective dances with cancer, the nature and power of silence, and all kinds of hot and juicy topics.

Click here to listen by stream and/or to download MP3 file. Inasmuch as we were speaking by phone between Australia and the U.S., the sound quality is not as robust as one might like. That’s OK, just listen with earphones or buds, and you’ll be just fine.

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Creating a Workplace Culture of Conscious Communication

A High-Impact One-Day Program for Executives and Managers

INTRODUCTION

Speech is a joint game between the speaker and the listener

against the forces of confusion. Unless both make the effort,

interpersonal communication is quite hopeless.

If the leaders and managers of any organization focus first and foremost on performance and productivity, they’ve got it all wrong, upside down, and inside out. They’re paying attention to the “what,” when they ought to be minding the “how.” Most executive teams have clear performance criteria, just as most organizations have clear productivity criteria. However, most teams do not have clearly defined communication standards; and yet all performance and productivity are fully dependent upon the clarity and quality of communication.

Since everything we want to achieve within our teams and organizations is dependent on the quality of our communications and the strength of our relationships, it would seem self-evident that we would be constantly teaching, learning, and evaluating the quality of our communication principles and corresponding behaviors.

The Problem is that teams without clear standards, values, and expectations for interpersonal communication simply cannot realize their business goals, nor can they create an energetic work environment of trust, mutual support, creativity, and consistent results.

The Solution is to identify and embrace communication and relationship values, attitudes, behaviors, and commitments that will assure high levels of team performance and achievement — as well as personal satisfaction and joy.

A culture of conscious communication is one wherein members of a team and organization communicate their thoughts, feelings, ideas, and intentions in an open, honest, accurate, and timely manner. Keywords for how people in this kind of culture communicate and behave include:

Candid • Non-Judgmental • Receptive to New Ideas • Vulnerable • Respectful of Others • Empathetic • Effective Listeners • Courageous • Accountable • Responsible • Clear • Cooperative • Transparent • Honest • Direct • Powerful • Creative 

TO READ THE ENTIRE DESCRIPTION OF THIS UNIQUE PROGRAM IN PDF, INCLUDING SAMPLE WORKSHEET, PLEASE CLICK HERE.

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Sara Harvey Yao interviews Robert Rabbin

Sara Harvey Yao, renowned “inside-out” leadership development expert, interviews Robert about Speaking Truthfully.

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On today’s show we welcome speaker and author, Robert Rabbin to discuss what it means to live life authentically and speak truthfully. He shares what it means to be able to go deeper into awareness and live your life without hiding. Robert believes that speaking is how we “move in and through life”, and he describes how broadcasting information is very different than speaking truthfully. We also talk about internal orientation vs external orientation, and the importance of building internal stability regardless of your external situation.

Robert Rabbin began his professsional journey in 1985, after spending 10 years living and working with meditation master Swami Muktananda. Since then, he has developed an international reputation as a radically brilliant speaker and public speaking guru, as well as a distinguished self-awareness facilitator, leadership adviser, and personal mentor. Robert is the creative source and director of Speaking Truthfully, through which he offers masterclasses and private mentoring in authentic self-expression and public speaking. He has published eight books and more than 250 articles on authentic living and public speaking, leadership, self-inquiry, spiritual activism, and meditation.
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In January 2012, he was diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer and told he had a few months to live. However, in keeping with his contrarian nature, he continues to thrive past the predicted use-by date. He lives in Los Angeles.

The Essence of Speaking Truthfully

Speaking Truthfully has many layers and levels. At different times and in different ways, its varied dimensions are an art, a science, an experiment, an improvisation. But always, the essence of Speaking Truthfully has to do with where we speak from.

Curious, isn’t it? I mean, how many places can we speak from? Most of us speak from our mouth. We might speak from experience, or false memory, or imagination, or what we’ve read or heard of. If we’re the passionate sort, we’ll energize those words with the fire from the furnace in our belly.

If we’re an intellectual sort, we’ll speak from our head. If we’re sentimental, we might speak from our heart. If we’re spiritual, we’ll try to speak from our higher self, or our no-self. Some of those folks, poor things, won’t admit that they speak — awareness itself does! As if that weren’t enough, some people, usually unknowingly, speak from their ass. They can even be elected to national political office!

All good. No worries, mate. No drama.

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However, there is another place from where we can speak, and it is in this place that Speaking Truthfully was born, and grew, and is maturing. If we can speak from this place, it matters little what we say or how we say it, because the staggering clarity and full force and magical magnificence of what cannot be spoken . . . is spoken.

Choosing Our Innate Confidence

In public speaking — and we are all public speakers, since public speaking is speaking with anyone other than oneself — a lack of confidence will always undermine our credibility. No one wants to listen to a timid, tentative speaker. There are two kinds of confidence: one is earned, one is innate. Earned confidence comes from education and training, or from years of experience. Innate confidence is an attitude of mind, a choice to be fearlessly expressive independent of other factors. Innate confidence is a self-blessing to speak our truth at all times because “I am entitled to speak and to be heard.”

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Each person is born with the exact same right to self-express. Authentic self-expression is an indwelling presence and brilliance that can only be dimmed by self-betrayal, as in self-suppression. We have to own this right, choose this right, exercise this right. It is ours. It is yours.

When people lose the cabin pressure of confidence and begin to spin out of control with anxiety, fear, and self-doubt, it is because they have forgotten to choose confidence. Why? Fear of judgment, their own or others’. We are afraid that we are not good enough, or not entitled to speak. We are afraid of taking up space without someone’s permission. Essentially, we do not have confidence in our own being and the inherent right to full self-expression that is ours from the beginning.

Here’s is a simple and fool-poof way to instantly dissolve fear of judgment and restore our confidence. All our fear of judgment comes from ordering people on a vertical, hierarchical axis. For example, we might order people according to income or net worth, looks, weight, organizational position, and so on. Our fear of judgment comes when we rank people above us on our self-created vertical axis. We give people who we locate above us more right than us to speak, to offer their views, to express their opinion. Their opinion is more important than mine! If they don’t approve of me … .

Where Do I Put My Mouth?

One of the benefits of chemo brain fog (not to mention post-stroke motor skills weirdness — as in “what the hell are my hands doing now and who told them to type that!) is the opportunity those beauties have given me to really get down with this mindfulness thing. Mindfulness, a very popular term and a growing practice throughout the land, is what I’ll use as a placeholder for the first two of The 5 Principles of Authentic Living: Be Present and Pay Attention.

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Mindfulness. Be Present. Pay Attention. I have got to be very focused and mindful of where I place my fingers on the keyboard, which is something I learned in high school typing class. If my fingers are not place correctly on the keyboard, I  fyppe fiburgis . . . damn, I mean I type gibberish. Oy vey.

These days, I have to not only be extra careful about where I place my fingers, I have to remain extra, even super, careful about how my fingers move from one key to the next. My muscle memory seems to be compromised by the twin beauties I mentioned above. If I have any hope of being accurate, clear, legible and sensible in my typing, I have to be super careful all the way through. It was enough, before, to just start out correctly and I could trust my muscle memory to take it from there. Not now. Mindful. Be Present. Pay Attention. To start, and all the way through. No let up.

Speaking Truthfully as Spiritual Practice

As part of my New Year’s “resolution” to focus my time, energy, and attention on promoting Speaking Truthfully programs, I began to outline a couple of new articles for publication. One of these articles is going to draw attention to the ways in which Speaking Truthfully can serve as a spiritual practice, a way for us to develop our own capacity for self-awareness in self-expression.

Yes, I have my own ideas about this, based on more than a dozen years of watching the impact of what I teach on my students and clients. Yes, I have my own anecdotes about how Speaking Truthfully has become my primary means of deepening and expanding the self-awareness I have been cultivating for decades.

But I then got hit by a bolt of inspiration to reach out to a few people with whom I’ve worked to see what they had to say. I wanted to incorporate their perspectives in my article, which is underway but not yet completed.

I asked them two questions:

1)  I what way do you feel developing confidence, skill, and effectiveness in public speaking can be a “spiritual practice” and contribute to one’s spiritual growth and development.

2)  How has your own experience of working with Robert in Speaking Truthfully been useful to you in this regard?

The responses really blew me away! They helped me understand the work I do more deeply, and more clearly. While not a word normally associated with me, I felt humbled by their comments. So, rather than wait until I finish my article, I decided to post their comments here, in a special blog post! The true value of Speaking Truthfully is, after all, determined by the people who experience and practice it.

Learning to Speak Truthfully from Our Hearts

“We fell morally ill because we became used to saying something different from what we thought.” ~ Václav Havel

It is not uncommon to read about some scandal of corruption, fraud or deception – by government officials, corporate executives, spiritual leaders, celebrities or sport figures.

Even the Catholic Church is not immune, paying out billions of dollars in penalties for not speaking authentically about decades of child sexual abuse.

I want to set things straight. We are not victims in this. The light is always on. What people do is always visible. Maybe someone is not speaking truthfully, but maybe we are not listening for the truth.